New Girl star Zooey Deschanel has long been defined by her adorable charm, but her totally sensible outlook on motherhood, body image, and the Internet will remind you: There’s more to this singer/actress/producer than long-lashed quirkiness. Check out the fun interview below.
How her little girl, Elsie Otter made her grow up…sorta:
I’ve never really felt like an adult. But I think it’s a huge accomplishment to have a child, so maybe I feel like an adult for that reason!
On the importance of women supporting other women:
Growing up, girls get all of these cues that you’re not supposed to be aggressive. You can’t be bossy. If you’re assertive, you’re bitchy. There are a lot of negative things that are said about women who are powerful, and I think that it makes for a climate where women end up being inadvertently passive-aggressive toward one another, and sometimes trying to pull each other down.
On pulling back on her career a little after having her daughter and how it helped them both:
I’ve slowed things down a bit. I think it’s good for your whole self— your creative self, your professional self, and just your soul— to take a little time for yourself and your family. You can spend your whole life going after things, but I think you risk missing out on some really powerful self-reflection.
Why mothers should not be scrutinized to look like their pre-baby selves immediately after birth:
To expect someone to look like her pre-baby self immediately is odd. Because you just grew a human and then birthed that human—there’s a lot that needs to go back to where it was. All your organs move around, for chrissakes!